Matthew’s War
This blog was published on April 9, 2012 on Brazil
Times website on occasion of our #3 son “retiring” from U.S. Army and
re-published here in honor of his 40-something birthday.
In the interim “Matthew’s War” has become the war of wars.
“I went to an appointment at Bethesda yesterday for diabetes care. It
really put my problems in perspective when I saw at least 6 different people
who were missing one or both legs or arms. One guy was actually missing both
his legs and one of his arms. He rolled his wheelchair around with one good arm
and a prosthetic. These people all served their country with pride, and all
continued to do so as they were each in a uniform or shirt representing their
respective branch of the military. I actually found myself standing at
attention when they passed to do what little I could to show them the respect
that they have earned from their own sacrifice.” (WO2 Matthew David Lewis, United States Army,
retired).
It has been relayed to me
that one of our five children once said, “Everyone knows Matt is daddy’s
favorite; but nobody minds, because Matt is everyone’s favorite.”
I’m not sure it is
entirely true that he’s my favorite, although Matthew did once teach me which of
our five children is my favorite – it is whichever I am with at the
moment. It is more likely that he is the
child I worried about the most. He is
the least like me intellectually (that unfortunate distinction goes to Susan),
for Matthew has a much greater intellect than I. Rather, I worried mostly because I saw him as
the most like me emotionally.
Fortunately his intellect has largely enabled him to overcome this hindrance
of heredity and environment.
He prefers to be called
Matt, but I always think of him as Matthew – it is a respect the man
deserves. When he was just five I began
telling him he is the very best Matthew in the whole world -- he is. Lest he ever forget, I always tell him how
proud I am of him (of course I never let on that this is true of all our
children and I’ve never failed opportunity to tell them also).
I was extra proud when he
joined the Army, now he had a direction.
It might not be a life direction, time would tell, but he was going
somewhere. As always with Matthew he rose quickly wherever men saw his ability,
and was recruited into the Warrant Officer program.
He has served with honor
about 12 years, working on something-or-another involving satellite
communications. I have no idea what he
does, but apparently if I’m hit in the head by a falling satellite I can blame
Matthew. I also know communications is
the linchpin which determines any army’s endgame.
Largely because of his
assignments in the Army he has never been deployed to a war zone. My observation has been that this has made
him reticent when strangers thank him for his service. I’ve told him more than once it’s not about
any one individual, that if our generation learned anything from Viet Nam it was
to appreciate all those who serve our community by serving our country. He’s learned to simply reply on behalf of all
who serve, “You’re welcome”.
Last week Matthew ended
active duty with the United States Army.
He can do so with pride and honor.
It may be a bit of an oxymoron, but there is no “me” in Army. Military success comes with all doing their duty.
It is ever true: “The share of the man
who stayed with the supplies is to be the same as that of him who went down to
the battle. All will share alike” (I
Samuel 30.24). Or, as the long-ago
poet Milton put it, “They also serve who only stand and wait.”
Unsung and little noticed
my “favorite” son now enters into what may well prove the final battles,
cyberspace wars. I will not be surprised
if once again men see him as a man among men, and that he easily rises to
lead. And, I will not be surprised if I
am even more proud of him as he continues to fight Matthew’s war.
David L. Lewis is
an observer of and sometimes commentator on life who may be reached via e-mail
at theddady1776@gmail.com
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